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Lead Your Life
Exploring and releasing personal  burdens

1 day online Deepening course with Ruud Baanders




9:00-17:30 UK time

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We learned how to integrate the complementary nature of NVC and IFS. The awareness of, and connection with, parts in a Self-led inner system highly contributes to how we relate to ourselves (self-empathy), others and the wider social system (empathy). 
In this course we will further expand this awareness and connection by developing an understanding of the nature of personal burdens. This will create a more profound clarity and wisdom of wo we are, what we do and why we do it, deepening our self-compassion and compassion.

In the Lead Your Life Foundation course we have already encountered the two different states of parts, a healthy state and an extreme state. These states can apply to the manager, firefighter and exile parts. When parts are in an extreme state they can be self-destructive and aggressive. We have focused in the foundation in getting to know our parts, unblending from our parts, and restoring them to their healthy roles so that they can contribute to a Self-lead inner system that is in balance and in harmony. In this process we successfully applied both the IFS and the NVC process for connecting, witnessing and empathising from Self with parts. The extreme behaviour of parts can often be restored by the above process, hearing their judgements and transforming these to observations, feelings, needs and request. Sometimes we have to explore further the life of our parts, by helping them to release their burdens.


Burdens (personal)
There is an important distinction between parts and their burdens. Parts are not burdens, roles are not burdens. Burdens are strong beliefs, emotions, energies that enter the system and the parts through life experiences when there was injury from trauma.  Personal burdens enter our system through direct life experiences and legacy and sociocultural burdens enter our system through absorption from our family, ethnic group, culture etc.

In this course we will explore only personal burdens. 


In this course we will explore:

  • what burdens are and how we notice them

  • what the different burdens are for the different parts

  • recognising personal burdens

  • releasing personal burdens

  • transforming burdens into gifts

  • integration of the unburdening in our practice



  • Your choice to pay between £35- £60 

  • There are bursary places (contact me​)

Payment required upon booking.


Maximum number of participants is 18.
A prerequisite for participation is having attended my Lead Your Life Foundation course

"We are compassionate with ourselves when we are able to embrace all parts of ourselves and recognise the needs and values expressed by each part.”

Marshall Rosenberg

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